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“Life and Death” – January 31, 2010

January 31st, 2010 Jan No comments

“Life and Death”

A sermon by Rev. Dr. Jan Carlsson-Bull
First Parish Unitarian Universalist
Cohasset, MA
January 31, 2010
(delivered extemporaneously, so much of what is written below was not spoken,
and some of what was spoken is not written below)

Life and Death, a small topic, no…an intimate topic, yes…a topic that reaches into every human heart. From the youngest to the eldest, life and death hold all the “big questions.” How did I get here? What am I doing here? What do I want to do? What can I do? How can I be? What happened before I was here? Will I really die? How will it happen? Will I be missed? What do I want to leave behind? What do I hope for after death? Is there life after death? What will it be like?

“Religion….our human response to the dual reality of being alive and having to die,” so said my late friend and mentor and a minister to us all, Forrest Church. Forrest breathed his last the day after his 61st birthday this past September.

Yesterday in this very space we celebrated the life of a much-loved member of this community. Two years ago, there was no inkling that cancer was about to make a fatal call. It did. It came with a vengeance. We lost her.

Just a week ago we marked the first anniversary of the loss of another woman, a young woman dear to this congregation. For so long she had struggled and suffered. For so long her loving husband cared for her and did all he could. Her frail frame could no longer fight the illness that claimed her. It was time to let go. We lost her.

     “We laugh, we cry, we live, we die;
     We dance, we sing our song.”

So it is for each of us. It’s almost bearable when we do it together….when we laugh and cry and live and die and dance and sing as religious community holding faith and wonder that we are here at all.

Sunday after Sunday we share our joys and sorrows, the fiber of our being together. We speak, we listen, we hold silence, and today we’re lighting candles again….bringing our joys and sorrows into caring community. In sharing from your heart, you spoke of life and death.

[Weave in the shared offerings of joys and sorrows.]

You brought into our worship what holds life and death and what transcends life and death. Some of us call it God. Some of us call it Spirit of Life. Perhaps we can all agree that love, love above all holds life and death and transcends both. Love lives. Love is eternal.

I am among the luckiest people in the world. My mother loved me. She gave me the most important of gifts—birth, life, love, and a graceful death—her death, not mine, or maybe it’s mine too. This past Christmas was the first Christmas of my life without Mom. How to celebrate birth, even a birth that rocked us like the birth of a baby in a stable in a lonely corner of the Middle East 2000 or so years ago? How to celebrate birth when your very own Mary, your very own Mommy, isn’t here anymore? Well, I cried. Even though at times I felt I had no right to cry, because my Mother had lived a hundred years. That’s a long life, and it’s the blink of an eye.

We were ready for her to go. A wonderful birthday party just over a year ago brought our whole family together. We blew up balloons. We wore funny hats. We toasted her with champagne and chocolate. She was present and aware and told us some amazing stories about her life that we’d never heard before.

We parted with hugs and kisses. Mom had made it so far. She had summoned whatever adrenaline was necessary. Then, in a matter of weeks, dementia came to call—not an easy visitor. Decline was rapid and not without struggle. In October, we got a call from our niece that “Gram” was in the hospital and her vital signs weren’t good. A quick trip on the Acela to Philadelphia and then to Bryn Mawr Hospital, where my niece, Tenny, and I sat on either side of Mom as her breathing was labored and her consciousness dim. A hundred years old! She was ready.

“Walk with me, Jesus,” was the comfort that she wanted as she let go. She had told me so a few years earlier. The 23rd Psalm was her favorite. Most of it I remembered from childhood, as I held her hand and stroked her forehead…

     “The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.
     He makes me lie down in green pastures;
     He leads me beside still waters.
     He restores my soul……”

Then…..what comes next? “Wait,” said Tenny, digging out her Blackberry. “I’ll Google it.” So with my high-tech niece on the other side of my Mom, her Gram, together we spoke the 23rd Psalm, hoping she would feel a comforting Jesus walking with her through “the valley of the shadow.” Whatever she took in, whatever was comforting her, we were a unit, loving our Mother and Grandmother across a passage that we too will make. It’s inevitable.

When your mother is dying, you might not think about giving her news about what’s happening with the family, but there was good news to share. I don’t know if she received it, but I trust that she felt it in the bones of her soul. “Mom, you’re going to have a sixth great-grandchild in May. Sarah and Robb are pregnant.” I knew how much it would mean to our daughter, Sarah, that her Gram got this news before she died. I knew that if Mom were fully conscious it would mean so much to her. Life and death and life were full circle.

Her breaths became deeper and the intervals longer, but she was peaceful, so peaceful. Then….that very last breath, a sigh, a long deep sigh. Tenny and I looked at each other. The tears rolled. She was somewhere else, not here, definitely not here. We didn’t know where, just not here. We called my brother, Tenny’s Dad. Jeff and Donna were in the Middle East, and at the moment of Mom’s death, they were in the ancient city of Petra, in the Valley of the Tombs. I’ve been there. But now I was here. Perhaps we were in the same sacred space, a space inspiring awe and marked by the sure promise of life at its outset…the promise of death.

As I look at your faces this morning, I know that so many of you have lost mothers and fathers, some of you have lost husbands or wives, and some of you have lost children. You know grief. You also know the joy of the love you shared, the love you gave, the love you received. Would you trade for a second the love you knew to escape the grief of losing your loved one into a mystery more vast than any of us here have yet experienced?

We’re born. We live. We die. And then…we don’t know…it’s a mystery. It’s a mystery where we were if we were before we were born. All we can know for sure is that we’re alive now, and that’s a miracle. The odds that any of us are here are overwhelmingly against us being here. All the ancestors coupling across generations, all the possible couplings of sperm and egg, the odds are so against us being here, being who we are, being alive. But here we are, a miracle. My friend Forrest called it “the miracle sandwich,” a miracle sandwiched between two great mysteries. All we know for sure is the miracle.

Actually, we know one more thing. We know that we lose those we love, and one day they will lose us, but what doesn’t die is the love. Even when our names are forgotten, the love, like some crazy kind of DNA, lives on from generation to generation. Not just generations of humanity connected by bloodlines, but through friends and passing strangers on into the future as long as humankind survives itself. Love lasts. It’s eternal. Love given, love received, love shared. Life and death would be opposites were it not for love.

So hold silence for a moment. Close your eyes. Open your hearts. Breathe it in. You’re alive. There’s still time. Breathe it in. Breathe in the love. And then, let it go, let it go into the heart of the person sitting next to you…into the hearts of the folks easy to love…into the hearts of the folks hard to love…into the universe. Let it go. Let the love flow as we all join the hands of our hearts in knowing that we will each and all one day draw our final breath and then let it go into the breath, the spirit, of all who have ever lived, beyond time and space, breath beyond breath, love beyond life and death.

I love you each and all, I do.   Amen.

Sources:

Forrest Church, Love and Death: My Journey Through the Valley of the Shadow, Beacon Press, Boston, 2008.

Psalm 23, The Book of Psalms, The Bible (Revised Standard Version)

“We Laugh, We Cry,” Words and music: Shelley Jackson Denham (1950 – ), in Singing the Living Tradition, The Unitarian Universalist Association, Beacon Press, Boston, 1993, 354.

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January 27th, 2010 Sandy No comments

First Parish Unitarian Universalist Cohasset

E-mail Update January 26, 2010

T he golden notes of Bach will rise from our organ and choir come Sunday as we welcome Sylvia Berry, forte pianist who performed here in October, as our guest organist and our choir performs two movements of the breathtaking Bach cantata, “Wachet auf!”   Prepared for the Sunday before Christmas, the much anticipated service was snowed out.  We trust Mother Nature will be eager to hear the January performance.   Our children will again join us for the first part of worship, Jim FitzGerald will offer our chalice reflection, and I will offer a message around a theme that is at the heart of all religion, “Life and Death.”   It promises to be a worship experience rich with every dimension of how we live the depths and heights of this miracle in which we find ourselves.

The echoes of this past Sunday still resound!   What a vibrant service of stories and music, images and artifacts our Common Hope Vision Team created.   Their ten days in Guatemala this past October with project Common Hope came to life for the rest of us as they movingly shared with laughter and tears how meaningful it was to connect with long sponsored children (some of them now adults), families, and the entire village of Antigua through teaching, dining together, building an entire home, and finding themselves family with friends who for some had been known only through letters and photographs.   To learn more about this extraordinary venture that is Common Hope, visit www.commonhope.org.   Our Common Hope Vision team continues to collect toothbrushes and toothpaste, supporting Common Hope’s dental care in the Guatemalan communities of their affiliated families.  Many were gathered last Sunday.  More are welcome and can be dropped off in the basket at the entrance to the Parish House.

From Bach to toothpaste, across life and death, we seek to be, in the words of our mission statement, an “inclusive spiritual community affirming our Unitarian Universalist principles and putting them into action by worshipping together, caring for one another, and working for a safe, just, and sustainable world.”   So may it be.

I love you each and all,

Jan

Haiti – First Parish responds generously!  Thank you!

The full non-pledge plate offering the Sundays of January 17 and 24 were dedicated to the UUSC/UUA Haiti Earthquake Relief Fund.  Thanks to the decision of our Outreach Committee, this fund will also be the recipient of our 25% non-pledge plate offerings from February through August.    Thus far, First Parish has contributed $1,150 to this fund that will permit our UUSC to partner with groups in Haiti to reach the most marginalized of our Haitian neighbors and complement the massive aid programs of larger emergency response organizations.  To learn more visit www.uusc.org or pick up an updated flyer at the entrance to the Parish House.

Ushers needed for January 31st!    Ushers also needed for 2/7 & 2/14.  Coffee hour hosts needed for 2/14 & 2/21!

These are completely enjoyable ways to be hospitable.   If you can help, please phone Sandy Bailey at the Parish House ASAP (781-383-1100).

The events of this week are as follows:

This Week

Tuesday, January 26

9:15 AM – Circle Ministry (group led by Annie Spang and meeting on the 2nd & 4th Tuesdays)

1:30 PM – Staff Meeting – Minister’s study

7:30 PM – Circle Ministry (group led by Jack & Carol Martin and meeting on the 2nd & 4th Tuesdays)

Wednesday, January 27

9:15 AM – Circle Ministry (group led by Polly Cowen & Linda Daignault and meeting on the 2nd & 4th Wednesdays)

7:00 PM – Minister-BCD Board Roundtable at Murray Church in Attleboro

Thursday, January 28

7:55 PM – Choir Rehearsal – Meeting House

Saturday, January 30

9:30 AM – 3:30 PM – Growing Stewardship and Generosity in our Congregations – a workshop of our Ballou Channing District – Unitarian Church of Barnstable, 3330 Main Street, Barnstable, MA

Laurel Amabile, Director of our UUA Annual Program fund, will present strategies for effective, year-round stewardship and fund-raising programs, using role playing and small group discussions.  Designed for congregational leaders, ministers, finance and canvass committees.  Registration fee is $10, payable at the door (includes lunch and beverages).   Registration is required.  Contact the BCD office by Wednesday, January 27 at BCDOffice@verizon.net or 508-559-6650.

10:00 AM – 2:00 PM – Circle Ministry Leads Food Drive

Two Circle Ministry groups will be at the entrances of Shaw’s and Stop & Shop to hand to shoppers printed lists of food requests that will benefit the Cohasset Food Pantry and Wellspring.   Group members will have shopping carts waiting to receive the purchased goods.   Given the outpouring of generosity when a Circle Ministry group did this last spring, it’s likely that several cartloads will be received.

This is part of an all-out food drive by our Ballou Channing District.  Several congregations are participating.  All of us can help.   For specifics, please see the January newsletter, The Common, p. 6, and this coming week’s e-mail update or contact Jack Martin at 781-749-3364 or drandmrsg@verizon.net or Annie Spang at 781-749-3364 or aspang1@verizon.net.

5:00 PM – A memorial service for Diana (Deedee) Rousseau will be held in the Meeting House

Sunday, January 31

9:45 AM – Childcare for our youngest.  All other children will join their parents and the full congregation for the first part of worship in the Meeting House and then leave for RE classes, which extended to 11:15 AM.   Our Whole Lives (OWL) meets at 9:45 AM at First Parish UU in Scituate.

10:00 AM – Worship in the Meeting House

Sylvia Berry will be our guest organist, our children will join us for the first part of worship, our choir will perform two movements of J.S. Bach’s Cantata # 140, Wachet auf, and Jan will lead worship, with a message on “Life and Death.”

Come join us for this extraordinary worship experience!   Bring your un-churched friends and neighbors.  Bring your children!

All are invited for refreshments and fellowship right after worship.

12:15 PM – Joint Meeting Of RE Committees of First Parish UU Cohasset and First Parish UU Scituate – at the Scituate congregation, 330 First Parish Road

For more information on activities at First Parish Unitarian Universalist in Cohasset, refer to our December newsletter, The Common, and to our website at www.firstparishcohasset.org.

We have a faith worth sharing and a church worth growing!

Come, and bring your children and your un-churched neighbors!

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February Newsletter

January 27th, 2010 Sandy No comments

From Your Minister

“Nope, not gonna happen!” It’s the caption chosen by one of our children in Religious Education for their illustration of three other children walking away from a bus. The heading that inspired it? “1955 1956: Martin led a boycott of the buses in Montgomery, Alabama, that lasted 385 days.” Just yesterday we celebrated Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Sunday. It was so gratifying to have our youngsters with us for the first part of worship in the Meeting House before joining their teachers for the “RE/religious education” part of their morning. When the rest of us walked into coffee hour after worship, we paused. Suspended from a clothes line along the window span of the Parish House hallway are illustrations of happenings that began in 1929, with the birth of Dr. King, through 1983, with the declaration of his birthday as a national holiday. Our teachers supplied the headings. Our youngsters provided illustrations and sometimes additional captions.

The wisdom of our children and the vision of our teachers moved me yesterday and continue to move me. Each piece of art and heart is my favorite. Visualize if you will how a child illustrated Dr. King’s speech at the Lincoln Memorial in 1963. I’m tempted to describe it, but my description couldn’t compare to what you’ll see if you come and see for yourself! And don’t miss the poster on the doors leading into Trueblood Hall. You’ll find a bus filled with kids and the caption: “We’re all on the bus together!” So we are. We’re all on the bus together. We’re all on this planet together.  As we hold up the life and legacy of Dr. King reminding us again and again that we’re all in this life together, we hold in our hearts the suffering and the hope of our neighbors in Haiti. Yesterday’s and next Sunday’s full nonpledge plate offering are dedicated to the UUSC/UUA Haiti Earthquake Relief Fund (www.uusc.org). Thanks to the decision of our Outreach Committee, this fund will also be the recipient of our 25% non-pledge plate offering from February through August. The truth learned by our children holds: We’re all on the bus together.  Our faith calls us, children and adults together, to affirm “respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.” In the words of Dr. King, “We are tied together in the single garment of destiny, caught in an inescapable network of mutuality.” So come, let us worship and learn and live a faith that stretches our souls, opens our hearts, and calls us again and again into the transforming embrace of love. Come, bring your children, bring your un-churched friends and neighbors. Come, be a part of what our children who were here yesterday have already taken to heart.

I love you each and all,

Jan

February   Services

February 7

10 AM – “Afterlife”

February 14

10 AM – “Love’s Edge”

February 21

10 AM – “Covenantal Action:  Beyond Light Bulbs”

Percussionist and UU worship leader Matt Myer will lead us in a service of rhythm, music, covenantal community and collective action.

4 PM – Meetinghouse Concert

February 28

10 AM – “The Walk We Walk Together”

11:30 AM – Welcome to U & UU for new and prospective members

25% of our non-pledge plate offering from February through August will go directly to our UUSC/UUA (Unitarian Universalist Service Committee/Unitarian Universalist Association) Haiti Earthquake Relief Fund, as decided by our Outreach Committee.   To learn more visit www.uusc.org or pick up a flyer at the entrance to the Parish House.

Mission Statement

We welcome all to our inclusive spiritual community. We affirm our Unitarian Universalist Principles and put them into action by worshipping together, caring for one another, and working for a safe, just, and sustainable world.

New Directories

New First Parish will be available February 1 at the entrance to the Parish House.   If you would like one mailed to you, please phone Sandy Bailey  at 781-383-1100.

Contact Us!

Minister

The Rev. Dr. Jan Carlsson-Bull

jcarlssonb@aol.com

Regular hours:

Monday through Thursday, 10-4

I welcome meeting with you. To ensure that I can allow ample time for you, please call to make an appointment during my regular hours or on an evening. In case of an emergency, call me anytime at church

(781-383-1100), at home (781-545-7912), or on my cell phone (781-733-0355). If you leave a message, be sure to state your name, your phone number, and the best time to reach you.

Director of Religious Education

Jim FitzGerald; jfitzgerald@firstparishcohasset.org

Office hours: Tuesday. 9:30 – 1:30 and designated Sundays, 9:30 – 1

Music Director

Allegra Martin

allegra.martin@gmail.com

Parish Administrator

Sandy Bailey

sbailey@firstparishcohasset.org

February Care Circle Coordinator

Nancy Robertson 781-545-8295

Parish Committee

Dear Friends,

What is your ministry at First Parish? How do you participate in our church? For the last four years my ministry has been the Parish Committee, the last three as chair. This is a demanding and time-consuming job, but for the most part I have genuinely enjoyed it. I like the work because through it I have gotten to know so many of you and to learn more about this faith that I love. I’ve attended meetings of the Parish Committee and the Council on Parish Ministry and several other committees, participated in fundraisers, and worked on stewardship. I’ve also represented First Parish at numerous UUA sponsored events. Each time, I have learned something new or made a new or stronger connection. I believe that my work, our work, makes a difference. Congregational polity is not an easy way to run a church. We do not have a church hierarchy to make all the decisions and do all the hard work. It is up to us. The members of our congregation have so many jobs: caring for our historic structures, caring for each other, teaching our youth and adults, social justice and outreach, music, making coffee, fundraising, attracting and retaining members, and general administration, just to name a few. Each of these jobs, big or small is its own ministry, a way of ministering to ourselves and to others. Yes, it takes precious time, and we all seem to have so little of that these days, but the rewards are so worth it. I marvel at the dedication of so many of our members to the health and longevity of our church. Many of you serve in very demanding roles, often on more than one committee. You spend countless hours attending meetings and on the phone and computer, but also working from home, or around our buildings. Why do you do it? For the same reason that I do, because you love First Parish in Cohasset Unitarian Universalist.

Our leadership development committee (the LDC) has done excellent work conducting a survey of members’ interests and talents and following it up with a booklet of volunteer opportunities at First Parish. We still have many openings on committees. And with the annual meeting 4 months away, the LDC has begun its critical job of nominating willing candidates for elected offices and members of the Parish Committee. I urge each of you to consider how you might become more involved, or be involved differently. Join a committee; try a leadership role; volunteer, recruit your friends and colleagues. Again I ask, what is your ministry?

In fellowship,

Mary S. Parker

Religious Education

While February is the shortest month of the year, it is a packed 28 days for our religious education program. This month, grades Pre-K through 2nd grade class continue their exploration of various world religious traditions, our 3rd through 6th grade classes will delve into Hebrew and Christian scripture, our 7th and 8th grade OWL class will address what it means to be in a healthy, committed relationship, and our 9th-12th grade youth group will engage in both community service initiatives that put their UU faith into action and some fun social activities that allow our youth group members to bond as a family.  This month marks the official half way point of our church school year. As with any program, the half way point invites us to reflect on the first half to consider what has gone well and what we would change in moving forward to the next half of the year.

What is going well.

In reflecting on the first half of the church school year, clearly the time, talent, and love our RE teachers and volunteers offer our children is without doubt a blessing. Last month, Abigail Alves and Kristen Winikoff offered a One Room Schoolhouse lesson celebrating the life and spirit of the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King. The beautiful work and messaging our children created can be seen in the Parish House hallway. Enjoy!

What we would like to improve.

What hasn’t gone so well is that our church school lacks consistent attendance. While attendance always permits classes to be held on Sunday mornings, the make up of the class is often different. This interrupts the flow and continuity of curriculum preventing lessons from building on one another from week to week. Additionally, the class dynamics change making the planning of lessons very difficult. Finally, youngsters in attendance miss their missing classmates.

Moving forward

The second half of our church year offers an opportunity to build on the wonderful foundation our RE teachers have established. All families are welcome to participate in our RE program, and feedback on how we can make our RE program even better is most welcome. If you have feedback, please don’t hesitate to connect with me. I’d enjoy the conversation.

Jim FitzGerald, Director of Religious Education

Building Community Within and Beyond

Thank you!

To Bev Burgess and our Outreach Committee for counseling us right after the earthquake struck Haiti to dedicate the full non-pledge plate offerings of January 17 and 24 to our UUSC/UUA Haiti Earthquake Relief Fund and for deciding that this fund will be the recipient of our 25% of non-pledge plate offerings from February through August.

To the entire Common Hope Vision Team for a wondrously memorable worship experience on Sunday January 24 in Trueblood Hall. Specifically, thank you to Pat Baird, Margie and Steve Brown, Bev Burgess, Dee Lehner, Carol and Jack Martin, and Kay Mixon. Through “Making a Difference—One Child at a Time,” you brought the experiences and reflections of your ten days in Guatemala last October into the heart of this congregation and inspired others to become part of the Common Hope experience.

To Bev Burgess as our Care Circle Coordinator for January and to Nancy Robertson, who will coordinate for February. Thanks to all who have provided meals and cards and more for those among us facing life challenges during these past months and also for families welcoming a new child into their midst.

Thank you to all who have kindled our chalice and offered chalice reflections through the month of January—Marie Caristi-MacDonald, Martha Jackmauh, children of First Parish, and Jim FitzGerald. Thank you to all who have ushered and/or provided flowers through the month of January—Linda and Eric Kluz, Margie and Steve Brown, JoAnne and Woody Chittick, and Chris Hetherington. (As of this input, ushers for January 31 are unknown.)

Thank you to all who have hosted coffee hour during the month of January—Art and Penny Myles, Leah Taylor Roy and Tref Borden, Ron and Shirley Wallace, the Common Hope Vision Team, and Polly Cowen and Annie Spang and Will Cowen.

Thank you to Allegra Martin, the First Parish Choir, Carrie Bates and Maureen Hague, and guest organist Sylvia Berry for glorious music all month long.

Abundant thanks to all of you who deserve to be cited here and have not been. Please send us your brief stories of members and friends whose actions large and small deserve our thanks!

Member Milestones

We celebrate and suffer. We hope and hurt. We revel in youth and ripen with age. In community, we seek to care for one another and for our larger world. Here we call attention to these member milestones—births, weddings, dedications, injuries and illnesses, and deaths.

Births:

Congratulations to Kim and Mike Reilly and Lily on the birth of Charlotte Jean. Charlotte arrived on Friday evening, January 8, at South Shore Hospital, weighing in at 7 pounds, 13 ounces. Reports are that big sister Lily is ecstatic!

Injuries and Illnesses:

We hold in our hearts and prayers: Bill Bell, also a longtime member of this congregation, is recovering from hip surgery at Brigham & Women’s Hospital in Boston. He is at home at 75 Elm Street, Cohasset, MA 02025. Linc Bloomfield, also a longtime member of First Parish, underwent hernia surgery at Mass General on January 14 and is recovering at home. Then on January 20, he returned to Boston for eye laser surgery at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center. Linc continues to rest and recover at home at 37 Beach street, Cohasset, MA 02025.

We hold in our hearts and prayers:

Locke Tousley, longtime member of this congregation, is resting at home. Cards are welcome and may be addressed to her at: 37 Stoneleigh Road, Cohasset, MA 02025.

Barbara and Mike Bliss. Over this past year plus, Barbara has spent valiant months of hospital care, intensive physical and occupational therapy, and renewal of spirit. You continue to inspire us, Barbara and Mike, for your loving marriage and for riding these challenging waves with amazing grace.

Shirley and Ham Tewksbury. Shirley continues at Allerton House in Weymouth and Ham at Colonial Rehab in Weymouth. Notes may be sent to Shirley at: Allerton House, Apt. 160

43 School House Road Weymouth, MA 02188  Her phone number there is 781-335-3556. Her cell phone is 781-626-2203. Notes to Ham may be sent to:

Colonial Rehabilitation and Nursing Home, Room 246A 125 Broad Street

Weymouth, MA 02188.

Deaths:

We hold in our hearts and prayers:

Steve and Susan Etkind and their sons. Steve’s father, Irving Etkind, died on Tuesday, January 5, at the age of 93. He had suffered a fall in early December.

Grace Tuckerman. Grace’s husband Edward (“Ned”) died peacefully on Thursday, December 17, at the age of 90. Grace is grateful that all their children arrived to say farewell before he passed away.

Care Circle

At some point in time, we all need a little extra care…during a divorce, illness, the death of a loved one, the birth of a child, a move to a new home, or after an injury, to name a few. We are fortunate, as members of First Parish in Cohasset, to be a part of a community that offers support during these times through the Care Circle. Just as we can all be recipients of the efforts that Care Circle extends, so, too we are the Care Circle providers. Will you be available to prepare a meal, send a card, provide a visit, offer a ride, or serve as a monthly coordinator? Please let us know how you can help out.  Care Circle is organized through monthly coordinators. If you or someone you know could benefit from our outreach, please contact our Care Circle Coordinator for February, Nancy Robertson. You can reach Nancy at 781-545-8295.

Penny Myles, Care Circle Coordinator pmyles74@comcast.net

Circle Ministry

It’s early Sunday, (or Wednesday morning, or perhaps in the evening on a Tuesday) and a group of people meet. They have known each other before a little, very well, or perhaps even not at all, but for a while they have been meeting twice a month, gathered in a circle, to share some readings, discuss a topic, and learn something about themselves and the others. This time they are discussing the thoughts and feelings and memories that are stirred by the topic: Taking Down the Tree. Another week they might be discussing “leadership” or “money” or “regrets” or “dreams.” The topics are supplied. The conversation evolves, stimulating, inspiring, never the same, never predictable, always enriching.

This is Circle Ministry, a program of First Parish that brings folks, members and non-members, together for connection and inspiration. There are six groups, meeting at various times, each led by two facilitators, with topics and readings supplied by a leadership committee. There are still openings in the groups that meet on the 2nd and 4th Tuesday mornings and evenings (two different groups) and the 2nd and 4th Wednesday mornings and evenings (two different groups).

To learn more, pick up a Circle Ministry brochure at the Parish House or contact a member of the Circle Ministry Coordination Team: Jan Carlsson-Bull (JCarlssonb@aol.com), Jack Martin

(DrJandMrsG@verizon.com), or Annie Spang (asang1@verizon.net).

Why not explore the possibility of joining a group?

Contact Joan Kovach, Circle Ministry facilitator

Circle Ministry leads First Parish UU/Cohasset for Ballou Channing District Food Drive This past spring, the Circle Ministry group led by Jack and Carol Martin arranged with Stop and Shop to hand out to shoppers printed lists of food requests for the benefit of the Cohasset Food Pantry. They simply asked shoppers to purchase at least one item on the list and place it in the grocery cart provided by group members. They collected an ample supply of food, far more than anticipated, and with enthusiastic follow-up, delivered it all to the Cohasset Food Pantry at St. Anthony’s Church. So successful was this venture that when Eva Marx, our Ballou Channing District’s trustee on our UUA Board of Trustees, recently contacted our congregation with the idea of such a food drive undertaken by all the congregations of our district, it was a natural that her request received a positive response through our Circle Ministry, given the commitment of each Circle Ministry group to undertake one service venture for the benefit of the larger community and the success of Jack and Carol’s group last spring. The Circle Ministry groups responding are, once again, the group led by Jack and Carol Martin, and this year, the group led by Annie Spang and Nancy Robertson (whose group last year regularly delivered to the Cohasset Food Pantry contributions left at the Parish House). On Saturday, January 30 from 10 AM to 2 PM, members of Jack and Carol’s group will be posted at Stop and Shop; members of

Annie and Nancy’s group will be posted at Shaw’s. All participants will again hand out to shoppers printed lists of food requests, but this year for both the Cohasset Food Pantry and Wellspring. Again, group members will have shopping carts waiting to receive the purchased goods. If shopper generosity is as ample as it was last year, it’s likely that both groups will accumulate several cartloads! They could use help from the rest of us to:

1) stand with them at Stop and Shop or Shaw’s, handing out lists, and gathering the purchases; 2) come by the Martins’ on Tuesday morning (February 2) and help transport the food from their barn to Wellspring and the Cohasset Food Pantry.

This is a splendid way to make a difference for our neighbors who are going through the worst of difficult economic times. If you can help out, please contact Jack Martin at 781-383-6577 or

drjandmrsg@verizon.net or Annie Spang at 781-749-3364 or aspang1@verizon.net.

Pajama Potluck – Kids Come in Pajamas, Everybody Come & Enjoy –

Friday, February 26, Parish House – Early evening, time TBA

Kids, come in your pajamas. Parents, come in comfort clothes. It’s a family potluck. No agenda! Just come and bring something that will feed 8 or so and perhaps a board game or Bananagrams or Go Fish or whatever sounds like a fun game for all ages. We’ll have a cozy corner set up with blankets and pillows for the sleepiest of sleepyheads. Bring your friends and neighbors! Come and enjoy!

T-Mobile Update

A building permit was issued to T-Mobile, on January 5th for installation of a cell phone antenna in the Meeting House steeple spire.  T-Mobile and a team from Atlantic Concealment arrived in Cohasset on January 12th to take measurements and develop plans for replacement of the spire with an exact fiberglass replica (at TMobile’s expense). Why? Radio waves from antennas cannot penetrate the wood of a steeple. All steeple based cell phone antenna systems require either fiberglass panels (installed over the antennas) or complete replication of the steeple in fiberglass. Hingham Congregational Church, North Street Community Chapel, New North Church in Hingham and First Parish in Duxbury (partial) are examples of panel construction. First Congregational churches in Westwood and Whitman, the Methodist Church in Duxbury, the Unitarian Church in Stow, MA, First Baptist Church in Hingham and First Parish Church in Duxbury (partial) are examples of replacement fiberglass steeples.

(Photo by Rod Hobson) The steeple and spire of our Meeting House are not original to the structure. The original steeple was destroyed by lightening in 1852 and again in 1869.

The current steeple dates to the 1930s and was partially rebuilt in 2002-2003.

A final review of the plans is expected in 3-4 weeks with completion of the installation by April at which time we should begin to receive monthly lease payments of $1800.  The T-Mobile team (Bill Baird, Rod Hobson, Art Myles, Ron Wallace) will continue to review plans and communicate with T-Mobile as the project proceeds. For further information and comments please contact Art Myles. Thanks to Mary Parker and the Parish Committee for their continued support.

Music & Worship

Dear Friends,

I hope you are all surviving the blustery, wintry weather. One good cure for the winter doldrums is to both make and listen to music! The concert series has a couple of exciting concerts coming up.

On February 21 at 4 pm, Syncopation will be back! Syncopation is the jazz quartet we had the pleasure of hearing last year, and they are really hitting it big; last July 4th they sang at the Hatchshell with the Boston Pops! We are very lucky that they decided to come back to us; they are truly an unbelievably good time, so I encourage you to save the date and spread the word. Please tell all your friends and neighbors; I think older kids would especially enjoy this concert, so please encourage them to come as well. I encourage you to check out their website at www.jazzsyncopation.com – you can watch videos of them singing, among other things!  And if you want to make music yourself, don’t forget that the doors of the choir and bell choir are always open to you!

Yours in song,

Allegra

allegra.martin@gmail.com

(617) 872-0461

February and March Openings for Ushering/Providing Flowers/Hosting Coffee Hour We’re well into the second tri-mester of planning who will usher and adorn our chancel with flowers or other arrangements and host our post-worship refreshments. Opportunities await us! Please check the sign-up charts during Sunday coffee hour and anytime mid-week, OR contact Sandy Bailey, our Parish Administrator, at 781-383-1100 or sbailey@firstparishcohasset.org and let her know when you would like to do what and confirm that your desired dates are free.

Ushers and coffee hour hosts will receive clear directions for what to do and a confirmation alert from Sandy roughly a week in advance. When you sign up, please note that if you then can’t make it, part of caring community is to find someone who can and let Sandy know right away. Commitments thus far are as follows. If you haven’t taken a turn or two, please plan now when you might do so. Thanks so much!

February 7th

Ushers/Flowers Coffee Hour

Holly Harris & Marie Caristi MacDonald

Joan & Larry Lunt

February 14th

Bev Burgess

February  21st

Kornet Family

February 28th

Sue & Galt Grant Bev Burgess

March 7th

TBD

March 14th

Joan & Larry Lunt Joan & Larry Lunt

March 21st

Bev Burgess Dee Lehner & Martha Jackmauh

March 28th

Bill & Pat Baird

Membership

New to First Parish and considering membership? Come join us on this February Sunday after coffee hour.

Welcome you to First Parish UU!

An Overview, Discussion & Brunch for New & Prospective Members

February 28 – 11:30 AM to 1:30 PM Minister’s Study

Child care provided as needed Discover who we are and what we’re about—as Unitarian Universalists and as First Parish in and beyond Cohasset. These gatherings are the first step in the membership process. While they don’t obligate you, they do prepare you to receive the “right hand of fellowship” during New Member Sunday. Our minister, Rev. Dr. Jan Carlsson-Bull, will be joined by a representative of our Membership Committee, leading us in conversation and story as we meet and learn.

Please register for this session and note your need for child care by Wednesday, February 24 through Sandy Bailey or Jan Carlsson-Bull at 781-383-1100. We look forward to welcoming you!

Outreach Help fill the bins and hungry tummies!  In addition to the Circle Ministry Food Drive, we can help fill the need of the Cohasset Food Pantry week after week. Our Outreach Committee reminds us to keep those baskets in the Meeting House and at the entrance to the Parish House full. Items especially needed are posted in the entrance to the Parish House.

Please be sure that the items you contribute are within the safety parameters indicated by the expiration dates!

Delivery is on Tuesday mornings. No one should go hungry! To learn more, contact Jane Ellis at jellis67@comcast.net.

Our Larger UU World

Thanks to First Parish for your generous contributions to our UUA through Association Sunday 2009!

On October 18, we celebrated the many ministries of our Unitarian Universalist Association through Association Sunday. The full non-pledge plate offering was dedicated to our UUA. This offering in addition to checks received later totaled $721! We received a thank you message from Tom Klein of the Stewardship and Development Department of our UUA thanking us for our generous support!

Dr. King’s Legacy and Beacon Press

Our UU Justice Action update reported that when the family of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was deciding on a publisher to re-release a treasure-trove of Dr. King’s non-academic writings, they chose Beacon Press. Founded in 1854, Beacon Press is an associate member of the Association of American University Presses and a department of the Unitarian Universalist Association. Check out the first two releases from the King Legacy Series, Stride Toward Freedom: The Montgomery Story and Where Do We Go from Here: Chaos or Community? You’ll find both at www.beacon.org.

First Parish casts its vote in our UUA Congregational Poll Decisions at stake in this social witness process of our larger UU world were:

1) To advance the revised Statement of Conscience on Peacemaking to the agenda of

General Assembly (GA) 2010; and

2) Advancing up to five of the proposed Congregational Study/Action Issues to the agenda of GA 2010.

While the opinions of the total membership were solicited re: the above decisions, this was a complicated Congregational Poll to figure out. Our Parish Committee discussed and decided how to cast our votes on behalf of our congregation. Their decisions were:

1) Advance the revised Statement of Conscience on Peacemaking to the GA 2010 agenda.

2) Of the six proposed Congregational Study Action Issues:

A. Ending Slavery – voted Yes

B. Energy, Peace, and Justice – voted Yes

C. Immigrations as a Moral Issue – voted Yes

D. National Economic Reform: A Moral Imperative – voted Abstain

E. Nuclear Disarmament – voted No

F. Revitalizing American Democracy – voted Yes

Thanks so much to the members of our Parish Committee for their thoughtful decisions. These will be cast as our congregational vote with our UUA at the same time that we re-certify as a member congregation of our UUA. As a certified congregation, First Parish is eligible to send up to four delegates to General Assembly, held this year from June 23-27 in Minneapolis. No sub-zero temperatures in June, promise! If you’re interested in serving as a delegate, please contact Mary Parker, Chair of our Parish Committee, at

msparker@comcast.net or our minister, Jan at JCarlssonb@aol.com or 781-383-1100.

UU B & B’s!

Think Florida anytime between January and April! You can live with a UU host family and enjoy the “tropical paradise” of southwest Florida when our beloved New England is not so tropical. For close to 20 years the Unitarian Universalist Church of Fort Myers has been hosting guests from throughout our UU world. It’s a fund raiser for them and a fun getaway for any of us. For an information packet, call 239-561-2700 or visit www.uucfm.org. Or ask our minister, Jan, for the information that she has in a gem of a directory of UU B & B opportunities from Canada to the Netherlands, from Alaska to Arizona!

The Gifts of our Ballou Channing District: A host of timely workshops…

(registration information and flyers on Parish House bulletin board or ask Jan)

Saturday, January 30, 2010 – 9:30 a.m. – 3:30 p.m.

Growing Stewardship and Generosity in Our Congregations with Laurel Amabile, Director of the UUA Annual Program Fund Unitarian Church of Barnstable, 3330 Main Street, Barnstable, MA

Presentations about strategies for effective, year-round stewardship and fund-raising programs and experiential learning through role playing and small group discussions. Designed for congregation leaders, ministers, finance and canvass committees

Registration fee: $10.00 (payable at the door)

The Gifts of our Ballou Channing District: A host of timely workshops… (Cont’d)

Saturday, February 6, 2010 – 9:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m.

Don’t Hit Back: Responses to Button-Pushing Behaviors with Rev. Dr, Ken Reeves, a clinical psychologist, UU minister, First Parish Unitarian Universalist Canton, 1508 Washington Street, Canton, MA A look at how congregations can handle behavior that blocks progress or that hurts others, or escalates conflict, while still valuing freedom and the inherent worth and dignity of everyone. Primarily designed for congregational lay leaders, ministers, staff and committee chairs

Registration fee: $20 per person or 3 for $50.

Saturday, February 27, 2010, 9:30 am – 4:00 pm

Walking the Talk: a workshop on congregational action for social justice with Rev. Richard Gilbert

Channing Memorial Church, 135 Pelham Street, Newport, Rhode Island

Co-sponsored by Ballou Channing District and Channing Memorial Church, this workshop features Rev.

Richard Gilbert, UU minister for 45 years and now Social Justice Coordinator for the St. Lawrence District of our UUA. Dick has authored the Building Your Own Theology series, The Prophetic Imperative, How Much Do We Deserve, and In the Holy Quiet of this Hour: a Meditation Manual. This workshop will explore the spiritual roots of our concern for social justice and the unique UU mission to translate concern into action. Participants

will gain organizational tools for working with a congregation and planning for change.

Registration Fee: $15.00 includes Lunch. Pay and Register online: www.channingchurch.org/walkthetalk Please complete the Congregational Self-Analysis Survey available on the website. For more information, contact office@channingchurch.org or 401-846-0643

February at First Parish UU Cohasset—

“Sing like no one’s listening, love like you’ve never been hurt, dance like nobody’s watching, and live like it’s heaven on earth. Mark Twain

February Sundays: Worshipping and Learning and Loving Together Delivering the Harvest of Circle Ministry/BCD Food Drive – February 2

BCD Workshop: Don’t Hit Back – February 6

Meeting House Concert – Syncopation – February 21

Pajama Potluck – February 26

BCD Workshop: Walking the Talk – February 27

Welcome to U & UU & First Parish – February 28

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Religious Education for January 31, 2010

January 26th, 2010 Jim No comments

MULTI-GENERATIONAL SEGMENT OF WORSHIP SERVICE
We will begin our RE program in the Meeting House with a multi-generational segment of worship service.  All youngsters participating in religious education classes are welcome to join us from 10:00 am to 10:15 am to start off their Sunday morning with prayer, music, and reflection as an entire spiritual faith community.  ALL ARE WELCOME!


Grades Pre-K through 2nd


THE MOUNTAINS OF TIBET —   This Sunday, our Pre-K through 2nd grade classes will explore a story from the Hindu tradition on this Sunday’s theme – “Afterlife.”  Parish youngsters from Pre-K through 2nd grade are invited to join us this Sunday from 10:20 am to 11:00 am for a story that gives some insight on what kind of life we’d choose if we are given the chance in the afterlife. 

Grades 3rd through 6th

A “TAKE APART” PARTY!   –  This Sunday, our 3rd – 6th grade class will hold their final UU identity class of the year with an innovative lesson from Spirit of Adventure – an engaging UU identity curriculum.  Parish youngsters from 3rd through 6th grade are invited to join us this Sunday from 10:20 am to 11:00 am for this lesson that combines our value of science and the adage “it is what’s inside that counts!”

 Grades 7th & 8th

OUR WHOLE LIVES PROGRAM
7th & 8th graders enrolled in the Our Whole Lives program will continue meeting this Sunday morning from 10:00 am to 11:30 am at First Parish Unitarian Universalist in Scituate.  Parents are asked to have youth at the church by 9:45 am so that the class can begin and end on time.

 Grades 9th through 12th

SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL YOUTH GROUP  — Youth group facilitators from First Parish UU in Cohasset and First Parish UU in Scituate are planning the next youth group activity using the feedback our youth offerred at the last youth group meeting.  Stay tuned for details!    

 

All Grades

CLOSING WORSHIP CIRCLE 

All youngsters participating in the RE program this Sunday will gather in the Atkinson room for closing worship circle at the conclusion of their RE classes.  From 11:00 am to 11:15 am, children and RE teachers will light the chalice, share their joys and concerns, and review the Unitarian Universalist principles.  Once our worship circle has concluded, children will be dismissed into coffee hour to meet up with their parents/guardians.  As always, all are welcome.

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Religious Education Update for the week of January 24, 2010

January 22nd, 2010 Jim No comments

Religious Education

for

January 24, 2010

Grades Pre-K through 6th

FULL MULTI-GENERATIONAL WORSHIP SERVICE

Children and adults alike are invited to come at 10 AM to the Parish House, (not the Meeting House) to hear and learn and enjoy the stories of our Common Hope Vision Team, who spent memorable time this past October in Antigua, Guatemala, building, teaching, and connecting with children who have been sponsored by so many generous individuals and families in this parish.

Team members met with their families and saw in the eyes of the children and their unfolding stories the positive difference that this outreach has made over the years.    For a preview of their work, visit www.commonhope.okrg/volunteernetwork.

Please bring with you some toothbrushes and toothpaste to share with our Guatemalan neighbors! Child care will be provided for our youngest.

Grades 7th & 8th

OUR WHOLE LIVES PROGRAM
7th and 8th graders enrolled in the Our Whole Lives program will continue meeting this Sunday morning from 10:00 am to 11:30 am at First Parish Unitarian Universalist in Scituate.  Parents are asked to have youth at the church by 9:45am so that the class can begin and end on time.

Grades 9th through 12th

SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL YOUTH GROUP

Youth group facilitators from First Parish UU in Cohasset and First Parish UU in Scituate are planning a winter youth group activity using the feedback our youth have given.  Stay tuned for more details to come.

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Jim FitzGerald
Director of Religious Education

First Parish UU in Cohasset
23 North Main Street
Cohasset, MA 02025
Office Hours in Cohasset: Tuesdays, 9:15am to 1:15pm
Church Phone: 781-383-1100

First Parish UU in Scituate
330 First Parish Road
Scituate, MA 02066
Office hours in Scituate: Tuesdays, 1:30pm to 5:30pm
Church phone: 781-545-3324

Email: JFitzG2038@yahoo.com

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