“Grace Abounds”
Thought for Contemplation- A human life is like a single letter of the alphabet. It can be meaningless. Or it can be part of a great meaning. The Jewish Theological Seminary
“Grace Abounds”
The Rev. Dr. Anita Farber-Robertson
First Parish in Cohasset
January 9, 2011
Readings: by Walt Whitman from the Preface to the Leaves of Grass
From Honey in the Rock, by Harold Kushner
Both are attached at the end of this sermon
Shay’s father was giving a speech at a fundraising dinner at a school for disabled children. His son Shay was one of the children who had been nurtured in that school.
He and Shay had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, ‘Do you think they’ll let me play?’ His Dad knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father he also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.
He approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, ‘We’re losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we’ll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.’
Shay struggled over to the team’s bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His father watched; …the boys could see his joy at his son being accepted.
In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay’s team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.
In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear…
In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay’s team scored again.
Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.
At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?
Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn’t even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.
However, as Shay stepped up to the Plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay’s life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.
The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.
The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.
As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.
The game would now be over.
The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman.
Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.
Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman’s head, out of reach of all team mates.
Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, ‘Shay, run to first!
Run to first!’
Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base.
He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.
Everyone yelled, ‘Run to second, run to second!’
Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base.
By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball. The smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team.
He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher’s intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman’s head.
Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.
All were screaming, ‘Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay’.
Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, ‘Run to third!
Shay, run to third!’
As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, ‘Shay, run home! Run home!’
Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team
‘That day’, said his father softly…’the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world’.
Shay didn’t make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten that he had been the hero.
‘the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world’.
Shay’s father told the tale to raise money from this secular crowd. It was never-the-less a tale of a profoundly religious experience.
Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to everyone that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others,…have patience and indulgence toward the people,…- go freely … with the young,…- re-examine all you have been told in school or church or in any book… dismiss whatever insults your soul; and your very flesh shall be a great poem…
That is what happened that day… a day in which the lives of two teams of ordinary boys were filled with compassion, love and grace. A day when not only Shay and the boys were changed, but every parent and sibling, every adult and school mate and neighborhood kid who sat in the stands was transfixed and transformed.
What was it that happened that day? Religious values were put into practice. Religious ideals were realized. And the flesh of those boys became a great poem, as they embodied the wonder of what is most deeply human in every joint of their bodies.
We never know when that will happen. Grace abounds. When we are open to it, we too may find ourselves having profound experiences like the people had that day on the baseball field. There are other times when grace is only a possibility, lurking on the edges of our life. It offers us the option of taking the risk Shay’s father took, the risk of putting ourselves squarely in its path.
We don’t always do that. I am continuously amazed by how readily we put ourselves in harm’s way over and over again. In emotional harm’s way. We fill ourselves with expectations of others that are unlikely to be met. We repeat old behaviors that have brought us frustration or regret, expecting each time, a different outcome.
I have a friend who has issues with her nieces. Every year she gets excited about buying Christmas gifts for them. And every year she gets annoyed because they did not write thank-you notes. This upsets her. She then remembers that they didn’t write thank-you notes last year either, or in any year she can remember before that, which only increases her annoyance. She feels disappointed with them. She feels angry with their parents for not teaching them what is polite and proper. And each year she sets herself up for disappointment and anger again.
This week something shifted. After her annual rant, she stopped and realized that if you keep doing what you’ve always done, it is foolish to expect different results. She announced to me that she has decided that she will no longer set herself up for disappointment. She will stop giving them gifts. I listened sympathetically, and went home.
But when I got home I thought, “Well, that is a lose/lose solution if I ever heard one.” She will lose the pleasure of choosing gifts and they will lose the pleasure of receiving them. It didn’t make sense to me.
I was disturbed by her solution.
Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to everyone that asks, … – go freely with …the young, and with the mothers of families- re-examine all you have been told in school or church or in any book, and dismiss whatever insults your soul; and your very flesh shall be a great poem…
The words of Whitman told me why I was uneasy. What is important are neither the gifts nor the acknowledgments. What is important is how we understand ourselves and how we move in the world. Are we living lives that embody the values of our faith and the aspirations it engenders? Are we living by the rules of the book, or the guidance of the open heart? What would it mean to:
“Love the earth and sun and the animals …give alms to everyone that asks … – go freely with …the young…?” What would that look like? Feel like?
For one, you could decide that your pleasure was in the giving. If you give for the pleasure of it, then maybe you could write thank-you notes to your nieces thanking them for having given you great pleasure by being your nieces (or your grandchildren, or whomever it is of whom you are thinking,) and thanking them for making you so happy by receiving your gifts .
Hmmm. That’s different. There is real grace in that- the joy of giving, the joy of acknowledging how fortunate we are to have such people in our lives, and the joy of giving them the pleasure of affirmation.
What a novel idea! Everyone wins. I think I have just talked myself into doing it! One more example of grace showing up.
Each lifetime is the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle.
For some there are more pieces.
For others the puzzle is more difficult to assemble.
Some seem to be born with a nearly completed puzzle.
And so it goes.
Souls going this way and that
Trying to assemble the myriad parts.
But know this. No one has within themselves all the pieces to the puzzle….
Everyone carries with them at least one and probably
Many pieces to someone else’s puzzle.
Sometimes they know it, sometimes they don’t.
And when you present your piece
Which is worthless to you,
To another, whether you know it or not,
Whether they know it or not,
You are a messenger of the Most High.
And there you have it. What I call incarnational theology. We are each the vehicles of grace, each the carriers of the holy that blesses and heals, emboldens and strengthens, each charged to give it away to everyone who asks, and even those who don’t. It may not always be a homerun, or an epiphany that changes your life, but
when you present your piece
Which is worthless to you,
To another, whether you know it or not,
Whether they know it or not,
You are a messenger of the Most High.
Readings:
Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to everyone that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown, or to any man or number of men – go freely with powerful uneducated persons, and with the young, and with the mothers of families- re-examine all you have been told in school or church or in any book, and dismiss whatever insults your soul; and your very flesh shall be a great poem, and have the richest fluency, not only in its words, but in the silent lines of its lips and face, and between the lashes of your eyes, and in every motion and joint of your body.
-Walt Whitman
From the 1855 Preface to the Leaves of Grass
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There must have been a time when you entered a room and met someone and after a while you understood that unknown to either of you there was a reason you had met.
You had changed the other, or (they) had changed you. By some word or deed or just by your presence (together) the errand hd been completed.
Each lifetime is the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle.
For some there are more pieces.
For others the puzzle is more difficult to assemble.
Some seem to be born with a nearly completed puzzle.
And so it goes.
Souls going this way and that
Trying to assemble the myriad parts.
But know this. No one has within themselves all the pieces to the puzzle.
Life before the days when they used to seal jigsaw puzzles in cellophane,
Insuring that all the pieces were there.
Everyone carries with them at least one and probably
Many pieces to someone else’s puzzle.
Sometimes they know it, sometimes they don’t.
And when you present your piece
Which is worthless to you,
To another, whether you know it or not,
Whether they know it or not,
You are a messenger of the Most High.

